From Victimhood to Victory: How Kyle Smith’s NLSE is Transforming Lives
Do you ever feel stuck in a cycle of negativity, where no matter what happens, it feels like the world is against you? This mindset, known as “victim mentality,” affects countless individuals and can be incredibly difficult to overcome. On The Patrick Bass Show, Kyle Smith, a transformative clarity consultant, shared his powerful methods for breaking free of this trap and shifting into what he calls a “victor mentality.”
Kyle, the developer of the Neuro-Linguistic Somatic Experience (NLSE), has helped countless clients redefine their lives by changing the way they think, speak, and breathe. In this episode, he outlines the science, strategy, and emotional breakthroughs behind his method—providing actionable steps anyone can take to start their journey from victimhood to victory.
What is the Victim Mentality?
According to Kyle, victim mentality is an acquired personality trait where individuals habitually perceive themselves as victims of external circumstances, even in the absence of clear evidence. It’s a mindset shaped by repeated negative narratives and reinforced by the need for pity, affirmation, or even as an excuse for inaction.
“The victim mentality is rooted in scarcity,” Kyle explains. “It’s fueled by a habitual thought process that prevents us from seeing the possibilities for growth and abundance.”
While victim mentality can provide a temporary sense of comfort or attention, it ultimately keeps individuals stuck in a cycle of disempowerment. The good news? With the right tools and mindset shifts, this narrative can be rewritten.
The Power of NLSE
Kyle’s Neuro-Linguistic Somatic Experience (NLSE) is a revolutionary approach that combines storywork, breathwork, and mindset training. It’s designed to help individuals identify, process, and transform the stories that hold them back.
“Stories shape our reality,” Kyle explains. “When we change the language of our stories, we change how we see ourselves and the world.”
The Three Phases of NLSE:
Getting Unstuck:
The first phase focuses on identifying limiting beliefs and the stories that keep individuals trapped in victimhood. By writing these stories down and examining their emotional triggers, clients begin to create distance from them.Celebrating Wins:
A vital part of the process is learning to acknowledge and celebrate progress. Even small victories can help rewire the brain to focus on abundance and possibility instead of lack.Pursuing Goals:
Once the mental clutter is cleared, clients are empowered to set clear goals and pursue them with intention and confidence.
Kyle emphasizes the importance of language throughout the process. By shifting from ambiguous “soft talk” (e.g., “I might do this”) to decisive “solid talk” (e.g., “I will do this”), individuals build confidence and reclaim their ability to make decisions.
Victimhood vs. Victorhood
A key takeaway from the episode is the concept of “victor mentality.” While victim mentality keeps individuals focused on external blame and helplessness, victor mentality empowers them to take ownership of their lives and choices.
“Victorhood isn’t about denying pain or hardship,” Kyle says. “It’s about reframing those experiences as opportunities for growth and self-leadership.”
One client story stands out: a man in his 40s who had carried the burden of a traumatic childhood memory for decades. Through NLSE, he was able to process his emotions, reframe the narrative, and release the physical and emotional weight he’d been carrying.
“It’s not about forgetting what happened,” Kyle explains. “It’s about reclaiming your power and no longer letting the past dictate your present or future.”
Overcoming Challenges
The journey from victimhood to victory isn’t always easy. As Kyle points out, people often resist change because it feels unfamiliar and uncomfortable. However, by taking small, actionable steps—like adopting positive language or celebrating small wins—progress becomes achievable.
Kyle also highlights the importance of forgiveness, not as an obligation, but as a means of releasing the power others hold over us. “Forgiveness is about letting go of someone else’s control,” he says.
Taking the First Step
Ready to transform your mindset? Start by reflecting on your internal narratives and asking yourself:
Are these stories serving me?
What small actions can I take today to move closer to my goals?
How can I replace negativity with positive, affirming language?
Kyle’s work serves as a reminder that mindset is everything. With the right tools, anyone can break free from limiting beliefs and embrace a life of empowerment and abundance.
Learn More About Kyle Smith and NLSE
For more information about Kyle Smith’s transformative work, visit his website at Clarity Consultant or connect with him on Instagram at DapperDudeKyle.
